Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Life is not normal until we live in fear..#Mumbaiterroristattack 2008

Now the world powers will be able to understand the strategic role India plays on the world map, some lamented. Some tried to liken the attack to 9/11 and some tried to contemplate the possible terrorist organizations that led the massacre. Some watched in horror and some in amazement with extreme disbelief. There were onlookers outside the hotel Taj to see our brave army and navy commandos in action. We watched each move and action commending our army who laid their lives for the safety of their country men and women.

But while the news was flashing with latest updates each minute, what really made me bewildered and choked my throat in pain was watching a baby girl who had lost her parents in the attack, a 13 year old boy who had lost everybody in his family - his parents, his siblings, and on top of that, he himself was so badly hurt that the doctors didn’t have the courage to tell him the truth. Then there was a man who was returning to his hometown after a vacation, lost each and every member of his family in the attack. Those eyes, those vacant gloomy eyes kept me up many nights. I woke up in fear a couple of times as the scene of those miscreants disguised as patrol jeeps opened fire at the hapless crowd running towards them for help thinking they are police officers. The trust was broken, the faith was shattered. These are the common people of any country who suffer the severest consequences without any understanding of whatever happened and why? What would that baby understand about the world politics and what would she care why some terrorist organizations have a mission to destroy some countries. What would a 13 year old with dreams and aspirations in his eyes understand why some don't want them to have any dreams!

After a couple of days, the media reported that the situation has come back to normal. Local trains started, people resumed their work, and everything is under control. Really? I asked myself. Just because the Bombay stock exchange is back in action full swing and the sound of those locals have started roaring again in the city, life really became normal? Are these the parameters to gauge the normalcy of any situation? How many of them are fearless now that nothing can happen to them the next moment? How many of them feel safe going to work in a high rise building without any fear, and how many are even enjoying their fun leisurely activities such as shopping without fear that some gunmen or shooters would not just pop out from any vague corner and start shooting at the crowd! Would the life really ever become normal for that baby who would recognize her parents only through pictures? Where would that 13 year old go for guidance and support in his life? How normal will the life be for that man who would go back to an empty house and empty walls with pictures of his family all over?

Until we live in a world where things happen beyond the understanding of a common man the life does not turn to normalcy. Unless we are able to board a flight without fear that there would not be any liquid explosive planted somewhere in the form of a shampoo bottle or toothpaste, life doesn’t become normal. We are getting accustomed to living in a world where there is no safety for life. Every time after such incidents, the intellectuals sit in a panel and discuss all about where and how and what these terrorist organizations are doing. Which country and which place will be their next target and how some had intelligence report about this massacre but the Indian politicians in this situation failed and didn’t take any adequate measures to possibly prevent the crime. It is customary to watch reports of ongoing  investigations and the world leaders pinning blames on terrorist organizations of a particular faith and discuss intelligence report.

Unfortunately, until there is an organization out there whose mission is to destroy the world peace and whose hatred for the humanity is so profound that it is brain damaging the young minds to sacrifice their lives for the mission, the ultimate goal of which is to annihilate the world in flames, we cannot claim that life is normal.

When I turn on the security system at night before going to bed, and think that I have probably secured the safety of my family for the night, my heart bleeds thinking about all the kids and babies, the most innocent victims of  such massacres, now have nobody to turn to for their safety in this unsafe world...

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Laughter is a matter of perspective......

Oops! I poured diesel in the gas tank of my lawn mower. What did I do? The engine seized and it wouldn’t start. Called up for the technical help and the guy was asking me questions I had no clue about. I never tried to figure out the intricate details of these kinds of machines. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I was looking for ways to shield myself. Then suddenly I saw a kid playing outside my house who bumped himself onto something he could have easily avoided, his friends laughed loud, the grown ups ran to find out if he was ok but that kid got up and joined his friends in laughing at himself. His laughter was a shield for him. He wasn’t embarrassed or ashamed for his mistake, his face was radiant with laughter and the kids were cheering him by calling him cool, funny..

The biggest ability a person can have is to be able to laugh at oneself. That laughter and that smile can do wonders to pull you out of that stressful situation and can invigorate your mind. Whenever I get stressed out I choose to laugh. And the funniest thing is, when I choose to do so, there are a millions of things that I can find to laugh about and they all happen to be mostly about me or about my own situation. The goof ups , the mistakes and sometimes the blunders I commit, they all look funny if I choose to look at them that way. I laughed out loud at what I did with my lawn mower and felt really good. In fact things look a lot easier, the answers start popping right in front of you because the mind is so relaxed. It is all a matter of perception.

Substantial research indicates that humor and laughter play a role in exercising the internal organs, getting more oxygen to the brain, boosting endorphin level, strengthening the immune system, and improving the optimism and outlook about his or her overall well being. We all read that and move on and start wondering but how can I be happy under these circumstances? I am not upset for no reason ? It's my horrible situation which makes me feel like that! Although, talking helps, no doubt about it. But that is a temporary stress buster. Just letting the steam off your shoulder does not put off the fire burning inside you. You have to pour the stream of positivism to extinguish that fire to ashes. And that can only be possible when we have the perspective to look at things in the lighter way and be able to laugh at ourselves. Being able to do so have the power to pull oneself out of any rut. “Don’t we have enough worries and tensions already due to the high stress life we are living in? But if we had the ability to laugh then we didn’t have to falsely intoxicate ourselves to pretend to move on and to put our past behind.

Nothing lasts forever.. but if we didn’t have the ability to be happy and enjoy the things around us then I believe we lost an opportunity to seize a moment from that passing phase and make it memorable for the rest of our life.
Laugh and the world will laugh with you…That’s the biggest gift you can give to yourself!