Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Awe or Attraction?

"Opposites Attract"! Isn't that a much trite idiom??? I was wondering, we are so used to keep using something without giving enough thought to it.

The other day I went to a party where everything was very smooth and quite interesting. There was a nice flow to it and too much predictability in everything we did. The topics we discussed, the things we shared showed evidently enough that this was a group of like minded people. People had quite similar likes and dislikes and pretty much everyone agreed to what the other person said. But there was something missing............ that spark, that fire which would set all our thoughts ablaze. Someone radical; someone very different from us. These are the people who make an occasion interesting or stimulating. They bring with them a different perspective to everything in life which is very invigorating and refreshing for our mind.

But do we call it attraction? Is our interest in someone just because he is able to hold our interest longer than normal can be called attraction?I don’t think so. It is rather a stimulation of the chemicals in our brains. Those are not very lasting. We are attracted to people with whom we can share a common ground, a level of comfort, with whom we wouldn’t have to worry about ever being misunderstood and where we are even able to communicate without any words or with fewest of them, if at all!

We learn a lot from people who are unlike us. They sure are able to arouse our curiosity, but attracted to them? May be I am taking the meaning of attraction too far but when I look around I see that our closest friends are the people who are inherently like us in their thought pattern. Would it be possible for a fun loving, light hearted person to be attracted to someone who is drawn to intellectualizing or philosophising everything in life? Aren't we more drawn to talking to someone who says or may be thinks like us? To me, in a marriage, an ideal life partner would be the person who would understand without having to say much.

Then is it Awe that our mind confuses with Attraction? May be………………I am sure many would like to differ with me but that might attract them as well?????? :)

3 comments:

Rahul Tripathy said...

this piece of mind here is like Da-Vince Code, decoded...perhaps, as you put it, readers will have to use their best judgment to distinguish between awe and attraction towards your post too...
have you given a thought to starting a "Soul Curry" series.. I look forward to more enlightening blogs from you..

Best..

Vikas said...

intriguing....

anupama said...

if u r attracted... the awe either follows or doesnt....
perhaps it is humane that we always subconciously crave for qualities tht we dont possess...
if something is good enough to hold ur attention longer than normal...that u actually start admiring it...a point where attraction n awe converges...
my perspective..n urs can definitely differ!!